How to get me time as a single mother
A few days ago, I wrote a blog post on why getting me time as a single mum is so important. You can read that blog post here. But today, I wanted to share some ideas on how to get me time as a single mother.
We all know it’s not easy. Particularly if you have your kids almost full time. For those that share care with an ex partner, use your child free time wisely. You’re going to have things that need to get done of course, but schedule in some time to just relax and do things for yourself too. You really need to recharge so that you can be a happier, more relaxed, healthier, version of yourself.
If you do have your kids 100% of the time, or close to 100% of the time (like me) you need to think about, and plan out your me time.
How to find the time, for me time.
- Schedule it in.
- If you have family around, ask them if they can have the kids for the day once a week/fortnight/month.
- Meet some other single mums, and swap free babysitting. The benefits of meeting other single mums are HUGE – you can read my blog post on it here.
- Connect with other mums you know to swap babysitting.
- Organize play dates with other kids from school or day care.
- Leave the office at lunch time and use your lunch break for me time.
- Wake up an hour before you kids (this may be a ridiculous suggestion if your kids wake up at 5 am).
- When the kids go to bed, have a night off. Yes, that means don’t do any cleaning, dishes or washing. I know, as a single parent you really have to stay on top of everything, but let it go for one night!
- Close the door to your office (if you have one).
What is me time?
Let me start by telling you what me time is not. Me time is NOT having an hour at the gym whilst your kids sit at your feet (as my friend’s husband says it is – can you see my eyes rolling?). You don’t want anyone nagging you for a lollipop.
Me time is time to focus on YOU, and doing what you want or need. This may be time alone, with friends, in peace and quiet, or with music blaring. It’s totally up to you.
Me time is taking care of your body, mind, and soul. You want balance so that you are mentally and physically healthy, and well.
I like to have most of my me time completely alone, and in peace and quiet. My daughter talks to me ALL DAY. It’s literally NON-STOP. And of course I’m engaging with her the entire time, so I really like to rest my ears and just have stillness for my me time. It’s exhausting being a parent!
It’s also important to include some social interaction as part of your me time occasionally.
Here are some me time ideas.
Whether you have 5 minutes, 20 minutes, an hour, or a day, there are so many ways you can fit some me time in. I’m just finishing up a whole 6 days away of me time in Bali, whilst my daughter is with her dad in Perth. My favorite things have been reading, yoga, meditation, swimming, napping in the sun, eating (without sharing), having a bath (with a glass of champagne), watching Netflix, writing, day dreaming, and thinking.
Whilst going overseas for my me time is a rarity (well, a first actually), I do get clustered days every few months for myself. In the past I’ve always used this time to catch up and try to tick off as many things on my never ending to do list, but not this time. Although I have done some things on my to do list, I’ve spent the majority of time just relaxing, carrying out self care and reconnecting with myself so I am relaxed, energized and ready to be a full time parent again. Check out my ideas for me time below!
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