Christmas morning. For some, it’s picture-perfect – matching pyjamas, laughter, presents under the tree, and a family gathered around the table. For others, especially single mums, it can look and feel very different.
Maybe the kids aren’t with you this year. Maybe you’re juggling family tensions, finances stretched thin, or carrying the weight of doing it all on your own. Maybe you’re just exhausted.
If that’s you, this is your Christmas morning pep talk.
1. Release the “Perfect Christmas” Pressure
Instagram and movies will try to convince you that Christmas has to look a certain way – overflowing gifts, happy couples, and picture-perfect family moments. But here’s the truth: the best Christmases aren’t about perfection.
Your kids don’t need endless presents or gourmet meals. They really don’t. They just need you. A calm, present, and loving version of yourself. That’s more than enough.
2. Remember, Your Feelings Are Valid
If today feels hard, you don’t have to plaster on a smile and pretend. It’s okay to feel sad, lonely, or even angry. Acknowledge it. Take a deep breath. And then remind yourself: feelings pass. This, too, shall pass. And a bad moment today doesn’t have to set the tone for the whole day.
3. Focus on the Moments That Matter
Notice the sparkle in your child’s eyes when they open a gift. The smell of coffee in the kitchen. The sound of laughter, even if it’s just one giggle. These small, ordinary moments often end up being the most extraordinary memories. Try to be present and mindful of all the great things that happen, in the moment – without getting swept away in stories and thoughts swirling away in your mind.
4. Make It Your Own
You get to redefine Christmas. If you want to stay in PJs all day- do it. If you want to go to the beach, take a walk, or eat ice cream for breakfast – why the heck not? Traditions aren’t set in stone. You and your kids can create new ones that reflect your family, your season of life. And while you’re at it, try not to get lost in the trap of comparing what Christmas might have used to been like or what your ex might be doing with your kids, and if it’s better than what you are doing with the kids.
5. Be Gentle With Yourself
Today is one day. If it feels heavy, know that tomorrow is a fresh start. You’re doing your best, and that is more than enough. And if you’re feeling vulnerable, do yourself a favour, and show yourself some kindness, by staying off social media so you don’t fall into a comparison hole.
💌 So here it is, your reminder for this Christmas morning: You are strong. You are doing an incredible job. Your children are lucky to have you. And while today might not look like the movies, it is still full of love, hope, and moments worth treasuring. And your kids bloody love you! That’s all that matters ❤️
Merry Christmas, beautiful mama. You’ve got this.
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