The tween years are a critical transitional phase typically for children aged between nine and twelve. As parents and single mums, we know that parenting through this period comes with its unique set of experiences and responsibilities.

In this episode, we’ll be sharing valuable insights and practical tips to help you navigate these tweenies successfully. It’s crucial to approach this phase with understanding, open communication, and support. Our goal is to empower you to strengthen your bond with your child and equip them to face adolescence with confidence and resilience. Listen in as we delve into the world of tweens and explore the best ways to empower both you and your child for parenting success.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide to help you navigate the tween years successfully as a single mum.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Listen to the episode here, or search for Single Mother Survival Guide in iTunes, Spotify, or any of the podcast apps.

Single mum guilt is prevalent and can weigh heavily on your shoulders. In this episode, I talk about various aspects of guilt that single mums commonly experience, and some advice to help you find ways to overcome this guilt. Sometimes hearing these guilt triggers out loud can bring a sense of relief and validation to your own experiences.

This episode aims to shed some light on the guilt that holds us back and empowers us to embrace self-care, self-compassion, and self-acceptance.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Click HERE  if you want to check out Episode 237, where I discussed why we suffer from single mum guilt, and how to manage it.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide to help you navigate feelings of guilt as a single mum.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Listen to the episode here, or search for Single Mother Survival Guide in iTunes, Spotify, or any of the podcast apps.

In this episode, we delve into a topic that may be more challenging and introspective than our previous discussions. We address the important and often overlooked subject of grief, particularly for single mothers. This episode is particularly meaningful to me as I have personally recently gone through a deeply traumatic event – a miscarriage. This experience has brought me a profound reminder of the immense impact of grief and how it uniquely manifests in the lives of single mothers.

If you are currently navigating feelings of grief, I want you to know that you are not alone. There is no right or wrong way to experience grief, and in this episode, I extend my support and understanding to each and every one of you who may be going through a similar journey.

In this episode, I also provide practical tips to help you navigate the initial days of grief, offering guidance and encouragement along the way. Grief is a deeply personal journey, and it is my hope that through this episode, we can foster a sense of community and support for all single mothers who are facing their own unique grief experiences.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide to help you navigate feelings of grief as you face your own grief experience.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Listen to the episode here, or search for Single Mother Survival Guide in iTunes, Spotify, or any of the podcast apps.

In this episode, we explore ten practical strategies to help you cope with the times your child is away, and even embrace it! We’ll discuss how to manage your emotions, create a self-care routine, and stay connected with your child even when you’re physically apart. It’s important to remember that while it may be difficult, these periods of separation can also offer opportunities for personal growth and rejuvenation.

Whether you’re facing your child’s first overnight stay with the other parent or you’re already familiar with this dynamic, this episode is packed with valuable advice to make the most of your time apart and strengthen your relationship with your child. We share insights and personal stories to provide you with actionable tips and a supportive perspective to help you navigate this unique aspect of co-parenting.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Listen to Episode 356 where I shared ten practical tools for setting boundaries with your ex to nurture a healthy co-parenting relationship

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide and receive actionable tips to equip you to properly set boundaries with your ex to nurture a healthy co-parenting relationship.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, we dive into a crucial topic for single mothers: setting boundaries with your ex to foster a healthy co-parenting relationship. As a single mother, establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries with your ex-partner is essential for creating a harmonious co-parenting dynamic. In this episode, we share ten practical tools that empower you to set boundaries effectively, nurture respectful communication, and prioritize the well-being of your children.

Join us as we explore actionable tips and advice to help you navigate the complexities of co-parenting and build a supportive foundation for your family. We hope this episode helps you gain invaluable tools for nurturing a positive co-parenting relationship.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Listen to Episode 329 with Bill Eddy, where we talked about dealing with high-conflict personalities.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide and receive actionable tips to equip you to properly set boundaries with your ex to nurture a healthy co-parenting relationship.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, we deep dive into the world of time management and share ten invaluable tips and strategies to help single mothers streamline their tasks, prioritize effectively, and create a more balanced and productive life.

Through this episode, you’ll gain valuable insights and actionable steps to help you juggle the demands of parenthood, work, and personal life more efficiently. Embrace the opportunity to prioritize self-care, foster healthy routines, and achieve a greater sense of balance. Tune in and discover the time-saving strategies that will empower you to thrive as a single mum.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide and receive actionable tips to equip you to approach co-parenting with confidence and clarity.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this insightful episode, we delve into the challenges faced by single mothers in balancing their time and provide practical tips and techniques to help achieve that much-needed equilibrium. We understand the demanding nature of juggling work, household responsibilities, children, and self-care, especially when it feels like there aren’t enough hours in a day. However, we firmly believe that time management is a skill that can be honed and mastered.

Listen as I share valuable insights to establish an effective time management system that works specifically for single mothers. Discover practical tips that will empower you to navigate the complexities of single parenthood while ensuring that you prioritize your well-being and personal growth.  Tune in and learn how to take control of your time, establish a balanced routine, and ultimately achieve a harmonious life as a single mum.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click the retreat link you are interested in – Byron Bay Retreat and Sydney Retreat

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Check out Episode 307 entitled, Asking For Help, where I talk about some reasons why many single moms struggle to ask for help and how to overcome it.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide and receive actionable tips to equip you to approach co-parenting with confidence and clarity.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, we delve into the intricate world of co-parenting. I share four common co-parenting issues single mums go through, and equip you with four effective strategies to navigate these common challenges.

As parents, we always prioritize our children’s best interests, and that’s why it’s crucial to overcome these co-parenting obstacles. By listening to this episode, you’ll gain valuable insights into effective strategies for improving communication, finding common ground in parenting styles, managing schedules efficiently, and resolving financial disagreements. I believe that with the right tools and mindset, you can create a harmonious co-parenting environment that fosters your children’s well-being.

Gain the insights you need to thrive as co-parents.

I also share six tips for when co-parenting really doesn’t work, and two final tips to help you no matter what is going on in your situation.

Tune in now and embark on a journey toward successful co-parenting!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Episode 329 – Dealing with high-conflict people in divorce, with Bill Eddy – here. 

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide and receive actionable tips to equip you to approach co-parenting with confidence and clarity.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this exciting episode, we dive into the captivating world of relationships and love as we review the remarkable book, Love Cycles by Linda Carroll. Join us as we explore this insightful work, where Carroll delves into the five essential stages of lasting love.

In her book, Love Cycles, Linda Carroll outlines the five stages of lasting love, offering a roadmap for understanding and nurturing relationships. The first stage, Merge, is characterized by infatuation and intense connection. The second stage, Doubt and Denial, brings a sense of disillusionment and questioning, leading to the third stage, Disillusionment, where conflicts arise and partners face challenges. The fourth stage, Decision and Power, involves making choices and taking responsibility for the relationship, ultimately leading to the fifth stage, Wholehearted Love, where couples experience deep connection and mutual growth.

Tune in to this episode for an engaging discussion on Love Cycles and gain valuable insights into looking at past relationships plus enhancing and deepening current and future relationships.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Sign up HERE to claim your free reference guide to the Love Cycles, packed with actionable tips and guidance to navigate each stage of love with confidence.

Click HERE to get the free guide that outlines the five stages of love from Linda Carroll’s book, Love Cycles.

Sign up HERE to get our free guide to understand what true empowerment means when it comes to making decisions for yourself and your children.

Join Thrive Tribe HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about a topic close to our hearts – the journey of single mothers and the power they possess to make good decisions, especially when it comes to their children and finances. Being a single mother can be challenging, but it’s important to recognize the strength and potential within yourself. In this episode, we will explore what it means to become empowered and provide practical guidance to help you navigate decision-making with confidence.

Remember, empowerment starts from within, and with the right guidance and mindset, you can navigate any challenge that comes your way. Tune in to this empowering episode to discover the tools and inspiration you need to unlock your potential and make the best choices for you and your children.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Sign up HERE to get our free guide to understand what true empowerment means when it comes to making decisions for yourself and your children.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), stress is “the reaction of the body and mind to a perceived threat or challenge”. It is a normal part of life, and in small amounts, stress can help motivate and energize people to meet the demands of daily life. However, when stress becomes chronic or overwhelming, it can have negative effects on both our physical and mental health.

Everyone experiences stress to some degree. But the way we respond to stress makes a big difference to our overall well-being. Managing stress as a single mother is crucial for maintaining a healthy lifestyle and overall well-being. In this episode, I share six ways to help manage your stress. I hope implementing these will help you become more aware and able to manage daily life better.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Click HERE to download our free guide on how you can help manage stress as a single mum.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Single mothers carry a huge responsibility to their children. It is often very challenging as they have to overcome significant challenges, such as financial difficulties, social stigma, and the emotional and physical toll of raising a child alone. But despite these obstacles, many single mothers rise to the occasion, showing immense courage and determination. They learn to rely on their own resources, become more self-sufficient, and develop a deep sense of inner strength.

The experience allows mothers to demonstrate their strength and resilience in the face of adversity. It can be a challenging journey, but it is also one filled with moments of joy, triumph, and deep connection with one’s children.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Check out my blog post, How to find (or start) a local single mum’s group HERE.

Read my blog post on 17 reasons why being a single mum is awesome HERE.

If you are a single mum, take a moment to download our free resource guide to help you appreciate the unique experience that come with being a single mother. Download the guide HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

It can be overwhelming to balance the demands of work, parenting, and daily life, especially when doing it alone. But with the right tools and strategies, creating a supportive, loving, stable, and nurturing home for yourself and your children is possible.

Today I talk about factors that contribute to our children’s emotional and physical well-being. Creating a stable and nurturing environment for your children requires effort and support, but the benefits are significant for both you and your children. It helps to build positive relationships, promote healthy emotional and physical development, and create a sense of security and stability that is essential for a child’s well-being.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Check out my blog post, Side Hustle Tips for Single Mothers HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Maintaining a work-life balance can be challenging for anyone, but it can be even more difficult for a single mother. Juggling the responsibilities of work, parenting, and personal time can sometimes feel overwhelming. However, it’s important to prioritize self-care and find ways to balance all aspects of life in order to prevent burnout and maintain overall well-being.

Ultimately, maintaining a work-life balance as a single mother requires intentional effort and a willingness to prioritize self-care and personal time. By caring for yourself and setting clear boundaries, you can find the best balance for yourself and your family.

I hope these tips help you achieve a healthy work-life balance, leading to a more fulfilling and successful life both personally and professionally.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Check out my blog post, A day in the life of a working single mum HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, my special guest Jade shares Part 2 of her story.

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is unsuitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

Jade is a single mum who has been through a lot. She was in a relationship where her partner gaslit her, was unfaithful, and was emotionally abusive. For a long time, Jade struggled with the effects of her partner’s behaviour. She questioned her own sanity and felt like she was losing her grip on reality. Today, she is a thriving woman who is now paying it forward. She is using her own experiences to help others who may be going through similar challenges, helping other women to recognise what is holding them back and reclaiming personal power.

Her story is a powerful reminder not to ignore the subtle signs of gaslighting and emotional abuse, and that no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.

In this episode Jade and I talked about:

•         The gaslighting she experienced.
•         Finding out about her husband’s infidelity.
•         Managing co-parenting with her ex-partner.
•         The trauma she went through and knowing that the people around her knew about the whole ordeal.
•         Steps she took to move on.
•         Reconnecting with herself and being so much closer with the girls as a single mum.
•         Her learnings from what she experienced.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

You can connect with Jade on her Instagram.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

If you suspect it is happening to you, sign up HERE to receive your free guide to help you recognise gaslighting behaviour.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, my special guest Jade shares Part 1 of her single mum story.

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is unsuitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

Jade is a single mom who has been through a lot. She was in a relationship where her partner gaslit her, was unfaithful and was emotionally abusive. For a long time, Jade struggled with the effects of her partner’s behaviour. She questioned her own sanity and felt like she was losing her grip on reality. Today, she is a thriving woman who is now paying it forward. She is using her own experiences to help others who may be going through similar challenges, helping other women to recognise what is holding them back and reclaiming personal power.

Her story is a powerful reminder not to ignore the subtle signs of gaslighting and emotional abuse, and that no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.

In this episode Jade and I talk about:

• Her background and her two children.
• How she met her ex and how their relationship began.
• Getting pregnant in the early stages of their relationship.
• The red flags she started noticing.
• Life after having her first baby.
• Her Husband’s distant and disappearing behaviour.
• Finding out about her partner’s betrayal.
• The gaslighting manipulation and emotional abuse.
• Getting married despite all the red flags.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of her story which drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

If you suspect it is happening to you, sign up HERE to receive your free guide to help you recognise gaslighting behaviour.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS), including what it is, and how keeping it regulated can help you. The ANS is something I’ve grown more and more interested in over the last two years, and it’s something I often incorporate into my coaching practice.

Today, I share:

• A brief summary of what the ANS is and what it is responsible for in keeping our bodies achieve balanced homeostasis.
• The two states of the ANS and how it affects us.
• Why it’s important to look after your ANS.
• Strategies to help you optimize your ANS.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Read my blog post where I share “Eight Ways to Survive Easter Without Your Kids” HERE.

Freebie alert: Get your free guide on how you can keep your Autonomic Nervous System regulated.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, my special guest Maggie Bailey shares Part 2 of her story.

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

This is the story of Maggie, a single mother raising two daughters, who lost her husband to suicide. Maggie’s husband had been struggling with substance abuse for many years, and despite Maggie’s efforts to help him, he was unable to overcome his demons. Since then, she has found the courage to speak publicly about her experience, knowing she has a unique opportunity to help others who are struggling with mental health issues and substance abuse.

Maggie’s story serves as a reminder that we are all capable of overcoming challenges and making a positive impact on the world around us. If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health issues or substance abuse, please seek help. You are not alone; there is always hope for a better tomorrow.

In this episode, Maggie talks about:

• How she had to separate from him to protect herself and their children.
• How her husband became convinced that their youngest child wasn’t his and how she had to prove the paternity through DNA testing.
• How she ultimately lost her husband to suicide.
• The rocky relationship with her in-laws, and being blamed for her husband’s demise.
• Finding happiness and managing life as a single mother.
• Joining Thrive Tribe for support and to be a part of a community.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Part 1 of Maggie’s story here.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, my special guest Maggie Bailey, shares Part 1 of her story.

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

This is the story of Maggie, a single mother raising two daughters, who lost her husband to suicide. Maggie’s husband had been struggling with substance abuse for many years, and despite Maggie’s efforts to help him, he was unable to overcome his demons. Since then, she has found the courage to speak publicly about her experience, knowing she has a unique opportunity to help others who were struggling with mental health issues and substance abuse.

Maggie’s story serves as a reminder that we are all capable of overcoming challenges and making a positive impact on the world around us. If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health issues or substance abuse, please seek help. You are not alone, and there is always hope for a better tomorrow.

In this episode, Maggie shares:

• How she met her husband and how they grew up in the same town and fell in love.
• How the father of Maggie’s kids’ mental disorder unraveled and how things started escalating quickly.
• How reaching out to his husband’s family for help when she found out about his drug use was not successful.
• Her husband’s mental breakdown and how he got admitted to a psychiatric ward.
• And so much more!

Stay tuned for Part 2 of her story which drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Kids react to separation and divorce differently. They might feel like they’ve done something wrong to cause the separation, or they might feel anxious… They might withdraw, and they might display disruptive behaviours… These are normal reactions, and the best thing you can do, as parents is to let your kids know that it’s okay to experience and share how they’re feeling.

If you are separating from the other parent of your children, it’s helpful to know what your kids might worry about so you can support them to the best ability. In this episode, I share ten things that kids might worry about when you separate.

I hope this episode helps you understand and listen to how they’re feeling, and make sure they feel supported during the process.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about children and what they should know, what they shouldn’t know, and what they probably know anyway, as you consider separation. Divorce or separation can be a challenging transition for children. It can be a traumatic event, but you and your children will adjust to this new situation as you find your new normal. I hope this episode helps you guide your children through this transition too.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

The decision to separate usually results after weeks, months, or even years of contemplation. In this episode, I share ten things I highly recommend you do before separating or divorcing, if possible. 

Getting a divorce or separation is a tremendous amount to handle legally, financially, socially, and emotionally. It’s something you take on when you’ve tried working it out and are certain there are no other viable options. So it’s crucial you do what you can to make this transition as easy as possible for yourself and your children. 

Links mentioned in the episode: 

The doors to Thrive Tribe are OPEN!! Join the membership HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, I have Ginger Gentile joining me.

Ginger is a filmmaker and change-maker. She reunites families torn apart from parental alienation and divorce through her work as a coach and also through her films Erasing Family and Erasing Dad. She is a documentary filmmaker dedicated to addressing ignored issues and shedding light on solutions. She travels frequently as a public speaker and is an in-demand consultant for parents reversing alienation, startups and NGOs raising money, and filmmakers.

Ginger’s experience is also drawn from her own journey as a child of high-conflict divorce. She is certified to offer the New Ways for Families Course created by Bill Eddy of the High Conflict Institute and she is also a certified iPEC coach.

In this episode we talk about:

•         What it was like for her being a child of high-conflict divorce.
•          Her own experience of parental alienation and her realisations from it.
•          The subtle ways parental alienation can happen.
•          Reasons why some parents alienate their children from the other parent.
•          The short and long-term effects of alienation on children.
•          Advice for the alienated parent.
•          Communication strategies for the alienated parent.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

If you are curious to learn more about the topic of parental alienation, please listen to past episodes 325 and 326.

Check out Ginger’s website Erasing Family and Reversing Parental Alienation.

You can connect with Ginger on her Facebook and Instagram.

You can stream her documentary Erasing Family on all major platforms.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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This episode is relevant to you if you are trying to decide whether or not to get divorced or separate (you don’t need to be married). This is one of the hardest decisions you’ll ever have to make. Too often, when making this decision, we rely on our feelings for answers, but doing this can confuse you and keep you in limbo, for months, or even years in many cases. 

Today, I share some insights and reflection questions to help you determine if divorce or separation is the right move for you, or if you are able to take your relationship or marriage in a new direction. You don’t have to sit on the fence, stuck with indecision forever.

If you are going through this right now, please know that you are not alone. May you find the strength and confidence to move forward with concrete plans for yourself and your children. 

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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In this episode, I share with you a variety of options to get through the divorce process – from a full-on trial, to DIY, to mediation, to collaborative… Divorce is an emotional and stressful process, and can be a difficult time for families. There are a number of important decisions you have to make. It is critical to be prepared and we know it can be especially tough on kids. I hope the information I share with you helps you make the transition as smooth as possible for you and your children.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Check out my recent episode where I talked about collaborative divorce HERE. (Episode 324)

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In this episode, I discuss how you can be seen as credible during separation. It’s very important you appear as a credible person when you are dealing with lawyers, mediators, and even your ex. Credibility is important because it can help influence decisions and set reasonable expectations, and when you establish credibility, you establish you are thinking about what is important and best for the kids, and not letting your emotions get the better of you. So here, l give you tips on how you can establish your credibility. I hope what I discussed today will help you to remain objective, and to communicate with confidence and clarity.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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In this episode, I talk to you about some ways you can improve your mindset. If you’ve listened to my past podcast episodes you will know that I am an advocate of developing and having the right mindset. Improving your frame of mind and the thoughts that run through your head can drastically alter your life. So, if you want to be a better version of yourself, learning how to improve your mindset can help you get there more quickly.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Check out my recent episode where I talked about the brain and the science behind our thoughts HERE. (Episode 332)

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In this episode, I talk to you about how you can prepare yourself emotionally for divorce or separation. In today’s society, divorce is a present reality for all couples that decide to marry. If you are ever faced with this decision or life change, it’s important to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the difficulties that may lie ahead.

Divorce isn’t easy; it can be a traumatic experience for everyone involved as you deal with many complex issues. I hope this episode helps you see the silver lining. Instead of focusing on your current emotional state, know that your choices and preparation will allow you and your children to live in a home where you are no longer exposed to anger, an unhealthy relationship, and perhaps even domestic violence.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Check out my recent episode on collaborative divorce HERE.

If you live in the United States, you can check out www.findlaw.com/state to see applicable family and divorce laws in your location.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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In this episode, I talk to you about the brain. I talk about how thoughts and habits are created in the brain and why it’s so important to be mindful of the way we think in order to create lasting change. How we think is very important. Ever heard of the phrase, “we become what we think about?” Thoughts are really important to people because they determine our well-being, how we act, how we behave, the choices we make, how we feel about ourselves, our relationships with others, and the quality of our lives.

I hope this episode helps you understand yourself and your thoughts better and to be mindful of them so you can create new habits.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In this episode, I talk about habits and how we can develop healthy habits that will support us in achieving our goals. Understanding how to build new habits is essential for making progress. And the first step is to start with your ‘why.’ Why do you want to reach your goal? As you set your goals for this new year, make a solid plan so they become a reality. You can then start creating new habits that align with your goals and that will help support you in reaching your goals.

I hope this episode helps you think of the new year as a fresh start. A new year is a unique opportunity. In this episode, I share a list of things to help you create new habits to achieve your goals this year. What you focus on becomes your reality. May you all live your life with intentions that will help you get closer to your goals.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In this week’s episode, I have my new husband Greg joining me! Get ready for laughter and cringe moments as Greg and I recall our highs and lows of 2022. And lastly, we want to share our wedding story with you!

What a whirlwind of a year it has been. We are happy to end 2022 on a high note, and we look forward to more memories and experiences for next year. Thank you for being part of my journey and for allowing me to be a part of yours.

From our family to yours, have a wonderful season of celebrations!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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This week on the show, I have the legendary Bill Eddy joining me.

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is the world’s leading expert on methods for managing disputes involving people with high-conflict personalities. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists, and others. He has worked as the senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center, a certified family law specialist representing clients in family court, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist. In 2021, he received the Lifetime Achievement award from the Academy of Professional Mediators.

Bill serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law, and is a conjoint associate professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has delivered talks and training to lawyers, judges, and mediators in over 30 U.S. states and 13 countries, and has authored or co-authored 20 books. His popular blog on the Psychology Today website has more than 5 million views. He regularly consults on issues of alienation, family violence, and false allegations in family court cases.

In addition, Bill is the developer of the New Ways for Families^® method of managing potentially high-conflict families in and out of family court.

In this episode we talk about:

• What a high-conflict person is.
• The four characteristics of a high-conflict person.
• Why trying to change a high-conflict person doesn’t work and what to do instead.
• The difference between high-conflict people and personality disorders.
• The characteristics of people with a personality disorder.
• What NOT to do when engaging with high-conflict people.
• Narcissistic personality disorders as one of the most common types of high-conflict personality.
• Some of the books he wrote relevant to single mums, in particular, are –
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
  • SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (co-author Randi Kreger)
  • BIFF for CoParent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts
  • BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email, and Social Media Meltdowns
  • Don’t Alienate the Kids!: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce
• Bill’s New Ways for Families method to help manage high-conflict families in and out of family court.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

You can connect with Bill on his Website, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Twitter, or his YouTube channel.

You can also check out his Podcast, It’s All Your Fault HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Today I give the single mums out there a bit of a pep talk. The holiday season can bring so much stress and overwhelm to many single mums. Being a single mum during the holidays can be lonely, but it doesn’t mean you cannot be happy. There are still so many things to be grateful for.

I hope this episode helps you make your single-parent holiday season an awesome, incredible time with your kids. Holidays are some of the hardest times for a single parent, but with positivity and creativity, you can make it fun and develop new holiday traditions with your kids. You can do this!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Today I talk about developing new traditions when it comes to dealing with holiday seasons as a single parent. I hope the ideas I share with you create meaningful and new memorable Christmas traditions. Every major life event, whether joyful or sad, brings on a period of transition as we adjust to the “new normal,” and it turns out that celebrating Christmas as a single parent can be just as good, or often (and especially over time), even better!

I hope this episode is insightful for you and provides you with hope. Give yourself a pat on the back, there is no better gift you can give to yourself knowing that you are thriving after dealing with adversity.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In this ep, I chat about five different parent-child contact problems one might face. For example, in a recent podcast, I discussed a polarizing topic about parental alienation. Some believe in it and some don’t. Here, I spend a bit of time discussing this more to bring greater awareness and understanding of this topic.

In this episode, I discuss:

• Parental alienation
• Estrangement
• Child empowerment
• Gatekeeping
• Parentification

These five parent-child contact problems are things to be mindful of, so you are able to maintain positive parent-child relationships.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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This week on the show, I have Susan Shofer joining me.

Susan Shofer is a two-decade agency-licensed private investigator with over 1,100 testifying hours. Ten years ago, while working as a private investigator, Susan became a certified divorce coach. Her area of expertise is high-conflict divorce with a specialty in parental alienation. Susan is a member of the Parental Alienation Study Group, comprised of the most prominent mental health clinicians and legal professionals in the parental alienation space. She is also the Director of the Baltimore /Annapolis/ DC/ Northern Virginia NADP (National Association of Divorce Professionals).

Susan’s passion and mission are to help people navigate through their high-conflict divorce using specific strategies unique to their cases. Her specialty is teaching targeted parents how to approach parental alienation with a true understanding of why it happens, how it must be litigated in court, and ways to effectively communicate with alienated children.

In this episode we talked about:

• What parental alienation is and why it’s the worst part of a high-conflict divorce.
• What parental alienation is NOT.
• How a parent may orchestrate parental alienation.
• The impact of parental alienation on the targeted parent and the children.
• How alienating parents are linked to often having personality disorders.
• Why the alienator alienates their child from their other parent.
• How parental alienation as a form of child abuse and domestic violence.
• How parental alienation can affect children.
• Susan’s TedX talk experience and how it came about.
• How parental alienation can happen pre, during, and post-divorce or separation.
• How to move past parental alienation.
• How parents who are alienated are often seen as the ones who may have done something wrong, rather than being victims.
• And so much more!

This is a topic that is close to my heart. it is so important and so tragic. I hope it helps you if you are suffering from going through this.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

If you want to get in touch with Susan, you may email her at Susan@susanshofer.com.

Check out Susan’s website HERE.

You can connect with Susan on Facebook, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Instagram, or her YouTube channel.

You can watch Susan’s TedX talk HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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This week on the show, I have Kurt Chacon joining me.

Kurt Chacon is a collaborative lawyer and certified divorce coach based in Dallas, Texas.

As both a child of divorce and a parent of divorce, Kurt has seen divorce from every possible angle. This perspective is why his goal is always to mitigate the effects of divorce on children. He is a member of both the Collaborative Law and Family Law Sections of the State Bar of Texas. He is also a member of the Collaborative Law Institute of Texas (CLI-TX), Collaborative Divorce Denton County, and Collaborative Divorce Texas

In this episode we talked about:

• Growing up as an only child with divorced parents.
• How he got involved with collaborative divorce, as someone who went through it firsthand.
• Going through his own divorce and having the need to be supported by a collaborative lawyer.
• The effects of divorce on children.
• What a collaborative divorce is and what the collaborative process looks like.
• Children’s perspective on divorce.
• Situations where collaborative divorce is not recommended.
• The difference between the collaborative process and cooperative law.
• The general timeline in a collaborative divorce process.

Personally, I believe a collaborative divorce is a fantastic option if it’s possible in your situation, and I hope this episode helps you learn more about what it is, and if it’s a good fit for you.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Contact Kurt by emailing him at coachkurt@me.com

You can also connect with him on Facebook.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In today’s episode, I share the seven mindset skills that are really important for kids under 10 to learn. While teaching children how to spell or solve math problems is essential, it is just as important to teach them life skills.

Many kids these days are not equipped with knowing how to handle things like dealing with conflict and managing their emotions. Little life events can also cause life trauma.

Having a positive mindset is developed through the experiences that happen in our kids’ lives and how they interpret them. As parents, it starts with us being role models to our children. Let’s teach them these mindset skills to give them a great foundation for life.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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This week on the show, I have Mary Ann Hughes joining me.

Mary Ann Hughes is the proud mom of two boys on the autism spectrum who successfully advocated for her sons’ needs during her complex divorce, and then became a Special Needs Divorce Coach founding Special Family Transitions to help families navigate the overwhelm and complexities of special needs divorce.

Combining her experience and certifications as a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, Certified Life Coach, member of The National Association of Divorce Professionals, MBA, and years of special needs training and advocacy, Mary Ann is committed to helping guide families with loved ones with disabilities through divorce challenges and transitions.

In this episode we talked about:

• Mary Ann’s divorce story and how it led her to become a divorce coach for mums with special needs kids.
• How she started her company Special Family Transitions.
• Life before her divorce and her first concerns navigating becoming a single mum caring for two kids with special needs.
• How to advocate for and support kids with special needs during and after divorce.
• Co-Parenting and communication with her ex-partner.
• Additional considerations to think about when divorcing as a mum with special needs children (such as prolonged child support, government benefits, planning for life insurance and wills, etc).
• Daily routines caring for children with special needs.
• How to survive a special needs divorce, and thrive afterward.
• The RISE framework she uses in her online course that helps mums who have special needs kids through divorce.
• And so much more!

I loved having Mary Ann on the show and sharing all she does. I hope you enjoy this and find this episode a useful resource.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Contact Mary Ann by emailing her at maryann@specialfamilytransitions.com.

Find out more about Mary Ann and what she does at https://www.specialfamilytransitions.com/.

Use the discount code JULIA to get 25% off her online course for Keys to Success in Divorce for Moms of Children with Special Needs. Sign up here.

You can also connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and LinkedIn.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Today I chat about getting rid of your stuff before, during, and after divorce. Divorce is expensive, and when you sell old stuff it can help alleviate some of the financial burdens, plus it helps you to declutter and it can also be a therapeutic and helpful way to help you move on with your new life.

Getting rid of all the “stuff” that you and your partner have accumulated throughout your relationship is one of those little things that often gets overshadowed, but it is an important way to help you let go of your past – out with the old, in with the new!

Here I talk about what to sell, how to do it and all the benefits!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Today I talk about different support options people wish I had known before they decide to get a divorce. Divorce settlements aren’t fun for anyone; sometimes they can take months or even years. This is a life-altering decision about your future. So really considering what is best, especially if you have children, and considering various support options to ensure the best possible outcome for you and your family is super important.

In this episode, I talk about the top three things that keep coming up in terms of what people wish they knew about support options before getting divorced.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Are you considering a separation or divorce? In this episode, I share six things people wish they had known before getting a divorce in relation to communication and relationships.

Good communication is a vital ingredient of a strong marriage. The problem is that some people aren’t good at it. If there’s a breakdown in communication, it’s much harder to build and maintain a happy relationship.

Getting a divorce is not something that is usually decided on overnight. It is something that really needs to be thought through. It helps to be aware of some of the many things that can be considered before making this life-changing decision.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Episode 286 – Four Biggest Predictors of Divorce by John Gottman

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Are you considering a separation or divorce? In this episode, I share some of the things people have mentioned as what they wished they knew about the more significant impact of divorce before actually getting a divorce. Here, I share five different viewpoints to give you a different perspective on things and to give you some things to consider.

Getting a divorce is not something that is usually decided on overnight. It is something that really needs to be thought through. It helps to be aware of some of the many things that can be considered before making this life-changing decision.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Transitioning from wife or partner to single mother is not easy. The pain from a loss of a relationship is never an easy time. There will be days when you feel you can’t handle it alone. I want to assure you, first and foremost, that you can do this! Be proactive during this time. The beginning is always the hardest, but you can take it one step at a time, and soon you will find out what works for you and what doesn’t.

In this episode, I share some tips on how you can support yourself through this process of transitioning from being in a partnership to becoming a single mum. I hope you find these tips helpful as you go through this transition.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Download the Ultimate List of Me-Time Ideas HERE.

Listen to Episode 307 – Asking for help HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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In this episode, I chat with you about the six mindset transition milestones of a divorce. The transition of moving from a partnership, or marriage, to being a single parent is a process, but how quickly you get through it is dependent on how willing you are to let go and engage in the process. This is important so you are not stuck in the pain forever.

The six milestones will help you become more aware of what’s coming. These milestones are from Alan Wolfelt’s book, Transcending Divorce, Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart.

There’s a whole range of stages that one might go through in order to heal. Here, I talk about the starting point of divorce, the transition steps in between, and the end (which leads to new beginnings). Each person is different, and you will progress at your own pace. Your journey is your own journey.

I hope that listening to this episode will help you become more aware of your own journey, and to ask for help if you think you need it.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to my previous episode, 307 – Asking for help, HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Today I talk with you about the emotional journey and transition from being in a partnership or marriage to being a single parent. All divorces start with a relationship, and like any kind of loss, the end of a marriage may trigger various reactions.

In this episode, I share the phases that may help you understand where you are now and provide some advice to help you navigate this difficult time. I also talk about the 3-year stages of the transition process. Transition is hard, and sometimes we resist it out of fear, frustration, and impatience. It’s important to have that knowledge and to trust the process. Change is not instant and may take time to allow for our transitioning.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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No one enters into a relationship with the intention of separating from their partner someday. So it’s no surprise that a separation or divorce can become a rollercoaster of emotions even for the most level-headed individuals. It’s a big adjustment! Until recently you had shared hopes and dreams with your partner, and suddenly it’s all gone. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and confused and as if you have completely lost who you are. But this is all normal and manageable.

Today I talk about some strategies to help you rediscover yourself. One important decision you have to make after a separation is deciding where your life goes from here.

Divorce or separation only marks the end of a chapter in your life. And it’s the opportunity for a brand new one!

I hope that the things I share help you and I truly wish you the best with your journey.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about managing emotions. When you’re a single mum, you may encounter twice the stress, twice the frustration, and twice the burnout that traditional father and mother parenting may experience. It is important to tune in and manage your emotions well because you have a huge influence on your child’s development. Learning to manage your own reactions is one of the most important ways you can teach your child how to manage their own emotions.

In Episode 311, I discussed emotions and what they are. And today I hope to give you an understanding of how to manage them. I know it is surely easier said than done, but the payoff is huge, for you and your child. I also talk about the difference between emotions and feelings, negative self-talk, the cycle of thoughts, feelings, and behaviour, and quick tips on how to manage your emotions.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week we are celebrating our 6^th podcast anniversary!

Greg joins me on the show this week. It’s just us having a chat on how the show has evolved over the years. We reminisce about our memorable travel moments, past guests and learnings, planning for our wedding, life in Goondiwindi, and Greg’s top relationship tips. Even my daughter pops in to say hello!

This show started as a small passion project and it just grew over time, talking to so many incredible guests, and reaching thousands of listeners.

I will never get tired of saying THANK YOU for making this show a part of your single mum journey. I am truly grateful!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Today I talk with you about emotions. How we live and interact with others is influenced by our emotions. It could even be said that we are ruled by our emotions. We make decisions based on whether we are happy, angry, or sad. It’s important to understand how your emotions are expressed and the impact they have on your actions because they can help us navigate life with ease.

In this episode, I talk about the eight basic emotions that we are born with, and how they can stimulate a response in our body that influence our actions, behaviour, and decision-making. I also talk about blending emotions to produce a new emotion.

I want you to know that it’s okay to experience any type of emotion, even those that can be difficult to cope with like anger or fear. Understanding your emotions helps us learn how to manage them, and it helps build healthy, satisfying relationships.

Listen to the episode to know more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

You can probably recall situations in your life that have made you uncomfortable. Right now, you may already be trapped in a cycle of avoidance without even knowing it. Avoidance in general are actions a person takes to escape from difficult thoughts and feelings. It may cause panic and anxiety when not managed properly. And you may find yourself restricting your life as you avoid people, events, and opportunities in an attempt to keep anxiety at bay. This can create an unhealthy and vicious cycle which intensifies over time.

In this episode I will discuss what exactly avoidance is. In order to change anything, you must first start becoming aware of when it’s occurring, so I will also share different types of avoidance coping, graded exposure therapy and other strategies for healthy emotional coping techniques plus breaking the cycle of avoidance.

I hope it helps you!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about emotions, managing emotions, and how they can affect our body if we avoid dealing with them.

When emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with the emotions effectively or avoid them. For many people, avoidance becomes their primary coping mechanism, because the trauma is too painful to deal with at the time. Or it may be because there isn’t the capacity to deal with it at that time.

Instinctively we want to avoid pain and discomfort and would very much rather avoid facing these emotions head-on. But emotional avoidance, if left unchecked over time, can extend suffering and, in the long run, may do more harm than good. What you resist, persists.

In this episode, I talk about what suppressed emotions can do to our body and mind when we don’t release them. Listen as I share some tips on how to identify your avoidance coping mechanisms and take steps toward making changes to help you heal.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Moving forward after a crisis can be really tough. And becoming a single mum can definitely be a crisis. A crisis can also be something such as struggling with anger, loneliness, fatigue, financial worries, and a whole array of emotions that you might be going through. And when we’re dealing with a crisis, we might be carrying all the stress ourselves, carrying it on our shoulders, as we embark on this new chapter of our life.

In this episode, I share a few tips that can help you move forward when crisis hits. I hope that what I discuss will help you move forward with a plan and with confidence.

Know that there are many other single mums grappling with exactly the same issues, and many have come up with creative solutions and are now thriving in life. Build a support system of family and friends that you can turn to for encouragement and support. You’ve got this!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about asking for help. As single mums, we often struggle to ask for help. You might feel you want to do it all, but it can be very exhausting. Others may not have trouble asking for help. But for those of us who do, I share my thoughts on why many of us are reluctant to ask for help. I also talk about practicing discernment on who to ask and when the appropriate time to ask for help is, plus some obstacles that stand in our way when asking for help. 

I hope that what I shared today helps you. If you truly are struggling, please ask for help. A lot of people love helping others, be grateful to accept the help you need and pass it forward someday. 

Links mentioned in the episode: 

To listen to my podcast episode on boundaries, click HERE. 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, I have Isabelle Silbery joining me.

Isabelle is a reality TV star who shined into the limelight as one of the members of ‘The Silberys’ in Gogglebox Australia. She is the youngest member of ‘The Silberys’ alongside her mother (Kerry) and grandmother (Emmie), bringing multi-generational women’s relationships and voices to TV screens every week.

They have recently written a book called Out of the Box, a memoir where they share their most personal memories and lessons learned. She also writes for Body+Soul, Mamamia and Kidspot about all the things people are thinking, but not saying. Sex, motherhood, love, divorce, and relationships – nothing is off-limits.

Isabelle is a social commentator, writer, and philanthropist. She is an investor in social impact projects, driven by collaborative, purpose-driven thinking that leads to connection and social change. Day to day, she is a domestic goddess and mumma to her seven-year-old son – her most important job of all.

In this episode, Isabelle talks about:

• How her book, Out of the Box, came to fruition.
• How through the process of writing the book, her mother, grandmother and herself learned so much about each other and how it brought them much closer together.
• Dealing with PTSD.
• Co-parenting with her ex-husband, and now transitioning into a blended family as a newly married woman.
• Her recent miscarriage and how it also affected her husband.
• Stories about married life.
• And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

You can check out Isabell’s book, Out of the Box HERE. The book is also available as an audiobook.

You can also connect with Izzy on Instagram.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about boundaries from a single mum’s perspective. This is a very difficult time for many single mums as they transition to single or co-parenting after separation. Having healthy boundaries enables you to learn to say no to situations that do not align with your values.

Today I discuss some traits of someone with rigid boundaries and someone with healthy boundaries and I talk about the types of boundaries.

I know it can be tough at first to put boundaries in place, especially if it is new to you, but if you do it right, boundaries will allow you to set your priorities and it will give you time to do the things that are more important, resulting in a more manageable life PLUS help your self-esteem.

I hope this episode encourages you to set your boundaries and helps you gravitate toward people who respect your boundaries.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about worry and how to manage it. As mums, we can all relate to feeling worried at one time or another.  We tend to have a lot of things on our plate as we juggle issues that come with separation, home, and work-life.

In this episode, I talk about the different things we often worry about and I share tips on what we can do to deal with worry, and specifically five ways we can manage our worries. I also talk about the difference between rumination, anxiety, and worry.

I hope that this episode helps you turn your worries into more productive thoughts and helps you realise that you have the power over how you handle the stress that comes with being a mum.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about habits and how they can be used as part of your goal-setting process. I believe that setting goals can help create the life that you want. These habits that I talk about have helped me achieve many of the goals I have set for myself, and because of that, I am able to live life more purposefully toward the life I want to live.

Today I introduce ten habits that will help you align your intentions with your future vision, so you become the person you want to become. May you put all these habits into action and keep yourself on track with your eyes on the prize – becoming the best version of yourself.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Episode 88 – Goal setting for single mums – HERE.

Join Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about decision-making and the questions you can ask yourself to help you reflect when you are making your decisions.

Getting into the habit of asking yourself these reflection questions can help you gain clarity and creates that inner dialogue to help you examine your own thoughts and feelings before making the tough and big decisions that will need to be made when you are going through divorce or separation.

Along with sharing these questions for you to ask yourself and reflect upon, in this episode I also share what to be mindful of so you can avoid self-sabotage, along with some actions that support decision-making.

It is my hope that this episode helps you become more intentional about setting aside time for reflection in order to help be aware and build confidence when making big decisions.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Ep 301 – Four biggest mindset mistakes that can affect your decision-making – HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the four biggest mindset mistakes single mums can make when making decisions and some tips on how to avoid them. Do you recognise one or more in yourself right now?

It’s something I’ve identified in many of my single mum coaching clients.

It is my hope that this episode helps you overcome these mindset mistakes, helps you explore all your options, and ultimately directs you to the best possible outcome for your situation.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week’s episode is very special for two reasons –

1. It’s my 300^th episode, woohoo!
2. This is the first time I have my partner Greg joining me on the show!

In this episode, Greg and I chat about dating, new relationships, and the blending of families.

We cover:

• How we got back into dating after separation.
• Things to consider before dating again.
• Setting boundaries when dating.
• The top 3 words to describe what we’re looking for when dating.
• The importance of having a thorough discussion on blending two families as the relationship progresses.
• The challenges I encountered with making big changes in life such as moving in together.
• Sharing parenting responsibilities in blended families.
• And our top tips when it comes to dating and relationships.

In this raw and natural episode, you’ll hear unfiltered parts of me and Greg just having fun talking and sharing stories and experiences with one another.

I hope you can relate to the things we discuss and that it helps you gain new perspectives when it comes to dating and relationships.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I discuss finding joy in your everyday life. I often get messages from other single mums out there who tell me how lucky I am that I found my happiness and that I have support from my loved ones in my single mum journey.

What many people don’t understand is the importance of having the right mindset. Going through separation or divorce can really bog you down; it is a difficult time. But know that you have a choice. Your ex is not in control of what you do with your life now. Your ex is not determining your current state of mind. You are in a position to keep your chin up, find your sparkle and ride the waves as you work on improving your circumstances, or be engulfed with negative thoughts and energy. No matter what your situation. Be kind to yourself.

In this episode, along with talking about the importance of having the right mindset, I also discuss the importance of forgiving yourself and practising gratitude. Finally, I share a couple of strategies that will help you develop the positive mindset that will make a big difference in your single mum journey.

I hope that this episode gave you a new perspective and an understanding that what you focus on becomes your reality.  Whatever your circumstances, make a conscious daily decision to choose joy.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about understanding our conflict triggers.

A trigger is something that gives us an immediate, intense reaction. They come from within us and are about how we react to a situation. Generally, they come from a real threat, or more commonly, a perceived threat; a FEAR (false evidence appearing real).

Conflict triggers are strong emotions that can cause rifts, resentments, and conflict when handled in an unhealthy manner. But when handled in a positive way, they can become an opportunity to grow, avoid potential conflicts and strengthen relationships.

It’s beneficial to know when we are being triggered, especially when we’re dealing with an ex, our kids, our work, and other areas of our lives.

Today I summarise nine different triggers and a variety of different personality types that might trigger you.

I hope that this episode helps you be more aware of your own feelings and encourages you to respond more instead of reacting, and lastly, to communicate clearly and be eager to find solutions to resolve disagreements.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about what steps to take when taking the high road when going through a divorce or separation.

In last week’s episode, I talked about taking the high road after separation whilst dealing with heartbreak at the same time. In this episode, we go deeper into the topic of taking the high road.

This is really hard to do when emotions are high, especially as you go through the stages of grief.

Today I provide you with some action steps to help you take the high road so you can walk away with your integrity intact and head held high as you move forward.

I hope these tips help you regardless of whether you have been a single mum for years or if you’re a brand new single mum.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about what steps to take when taking the high road when going through a divorce or separation.

In last week’s episode, I talked about taking the high road after separation whilst dealing with heartbreak at the same time. In this episode, we go deeper into the topic of taking the high road.

This is really hard to do when emotions are high, especially as you go through the stages of grief.

Today I provide you with some action steps to help you take the high road so you can walk away with your integrity intact and head held high as you move forward.

I hope these tips help you regardless of whether you have been a single mum for years or if you’re a brand new single mum.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about taking the high road after separation whilst dealing with heartbreak and going through the grief cycle at the same time.

This tough phase is something I help my one-on-one clients with. I get it, emotions can become intense when communicating with your ex after separation.

There are benefits to choosing your words carefully and respecting your ex (even if they don’t deserve it). Not only does this preserve your dignity, but all communication can be used against you when you go to court.

Taking the high road is operating from a place of being at your best self and choosing to walk away from conflict; it’s focusing on what you have and what you want. It’s about looking at yourself and taking responsibility for your actions rather than playing the blame game.

If you want to hear more about this topic, check out Episode 194 and Episode 293 where I talked about heartbreak.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week, I discuss holistic healing. Nowadays it is important to have a healthy approach to all aspects of our well-being – spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional. This is where we can make a change and a lasting improvement in our quality of life.

A holistic approach to healing is something I offer to my clients. This is also something I share with my Thrive Tribe family. Today I will share what has worked for me and the people I work with – the 8 pillars of holistic healing. I hope they help you to live a balanced life too.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

In this week’s episode, I have Vikki Stark joining me. Vikki is an internationally known psychotherapist, speaker, author, divorce recovery expert, and the director of the Sedona Counselling Centre of Montreal. She’s particularly known for her groundbreaking book, Runaway Husbands, which has led her to mentor a worldwide community of women recovering from unexpected divorce.

She has written two other books (My Sister, My Self, and The Divorce Talk: How to Tell the Kids) and edited a fourth, Planet Heartbreak, which is a compilation of 62 stories written by women from the Runaway Husbands community.

She’s a blogger for Psychology Today and has often been a guest on radio and television, and a speaker at conferences worldwide. She is devoted to helping the women in her community and loves leading retreats, either online, in Montreal, or in Sedona, Arizona.

In this episode she talks about:

• Her own story of sudden wife abandonment.
• How this experience pivoted her on a path in life of helping other women going through the same thing.
• The ten hallmarks of sudden wife syndrome.
• The link between sudden wife abandonment and covert narcissism.
• The transformational healing stages after going through something like this.
• How to learn to see this experience as an opportunity for growth and change.
• How to talk to your kids when this happens.
• And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

This week on the show, I talk about high-conflict personalities in divorce. This is a huge topic. We all know divorce is rarely an easy situation as it is, it is highly emotional and costly. Add a high conflict personality in? And it is much more difficult!

In this episode, I discuss:

• The difference between a “normal” divorce and a high conflict divorce.
• What it is like dealing with a spouse who has a high-conflict personality.
• Signs for you to look out for if you suspect you are dealing with a high-conflict personality in your divorce.
• How I’ve helped coach and guide my clients that are going through this.
• The most common high-conflict personality types (borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder).
• Practical advice to people going through this highly emotional situation.
• And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

In this episode, I answer a question I received and addressed in my recent Tuesday Struggle Strategy Session in the Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.

Here, I am sharing my answer because I think it’s a great question. It was a question that is quite hard to admit to, a mindset that holds us back and I’m pretty sure we can all relate to it.

The question I addressed was:

Hi Julia, I have been divorced for 5 years now and I’m happy that I’m no longer in the marriage anymore. But despite the emotional, physical, and emotional abuse I endured throughout the marriage, there is one thing that hits me hard all the time. And that is I supported him during our 10-year marriage and two kids to climb that corporate ladder, earning hundreds and thousands of dollars… and now is in a cushy job, a job that takes him to places like Singapore, and still climbing the ladder while I have the kids 90% of the time and for him, one night a week. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to have the kids. I feel robbed. He left me with debt and having to start over from scratch. Why does this get me all the time? 

In this episode, I chat about:

• Changing your mindset.
• Unresolved resentments.
• Having an attitude of gratitude.

Listen to the episode to get some insights and tips especially if you are facing similar challenges in your journey. And if you are feeling the same about your current situation, I really hope that listening to this will help you.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

In this episode, I discuss divorce coaching – what it is, why you need a divorce coach if you are considering getting a divorce, and how it can help you.  As a certified divorce coach, I am very passionate about helping single mums overcome challenges, make the best out of a very difficult situation, and thrive.

I share:

My own experience with divorce as a child.
The positive and negative impacts of divorce in my life as I grew up – emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
How my parent’s divorce helped give me more insight and empathy for children and other people going through a divorce.
The difference between coaching and therapy.
What I love about being a divorce coach.
And much more!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week, I talk about mindset when it comes to divorce.

I am a certified divorce coach and a certified transition and recovery coach. I am passionate about working with single mums.

In this episode, I share six of the biggest mindset mistakes people usually make when they get divorced.

As a coach, this is something I help people recognise so they can handle it better. Failure to recognise these mistakes can result in serious long-term consequences. It is very important to develop the right mindset before, during, and after divorce proceedings.

It’s my hope that gaining awareness will save you from losing unnecessary time, money, and effort.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

This week is not your typical episode. I’m super stoked to share a wonderful life update with you…

I’m engaged!!!

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend now for 18 months and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him! I’m so happy that my daughter was absolutely thrilled about the news too.

I’m grateful for all the love and support I’ve received from everyone.

In this episode I talk about:

• How our relationship developed over time.
• The element of fear in entering into a relationship, especially if you have been through DV or some form of abuse.
• Not settling for someone that isn’t right for you.
• And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

This week on the show, I have a very special guest sharing her single mum journey and her experience with self-growth and the things that have helped her heal as a result of becoming a single mother.

She is one of my founding Thrive Tribe members and it’s made me so very happy to have seen her grow over the last couple of years. She’s been a single mum for five years and has three children.

In this episode she shares:

• How her children were affected by the strained relationship she had with her ex.
• How her kids have grown over the years following the separation.
• How she met her ex and how the relationship developed.
• The domestic violence and control issues she suffered from in the relationship and losing her sense of identity in the process.
• How she helped her children process and navigate through the separation and what it means for them.
• How she dealt with the shame of being the only single mum in her family and circle of friends.
• How building her self-identity and independence strained the relationship with her ex.
• The co-parenting arrangement she has with her ex-partner.
• Being diagnosed with complex PTSD, anxiety, and depression.
• The importance of finding the right therapist.
• The things that helped her in her journey to healing.
• The importance of belonging to a community of like-minded people, like Thrive Tribe, who understand what you are going through.
• Insights gained from her healing journey.
• Her advice to new single mums who are starting their own healing journey.
• And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

In this episode, I share some information about factors that play the biggest role in leading a couple to divorce.

I discuss Dr John Gottman’s research into The Four Horseman of The Apocalypse. This refers to the four negative communication patterns that, according to his research, often lead to the end of a relationship if the behaviour isn’t changed.

These are:

1. Criticism
2. Defensiveness
3. Contempt
4. Stonewalling

Dr John Gottman is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute with his wife, Dr Julie Schwartz Gottman. He is world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction. He has conducted 40 years of research with thousands of couples. Dr Gottman was one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the Psychotherapy Networker. He authored and co-authored over 200 published academic articles and more than 40 books.

Links mentioned in the episode:

You can connect with Dr John Gottman through his Website, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and LinkedIn.

Click HERE to watch a short video about The Four Horseman of The Apocalypse.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Frances uses a blend of transformational techniques and innovative processes to help her clients get the breakthroughs and results they seek. Her work has been featured in numerous publications and professional journals, and she is regularly interviewed by BBC Radio.

Frances has a wealth of life experience which has given her a deep understanding of human nature and an ability to relate to her clients and put them at ease. Her clients come from all walks of life and include high-profile individuals in the public eye who particularly value the absolute discretion and completely confidential environment she is able to offer.

Over recent years she has developed a bespoke, highly specialised approach to her work that seamlessly integrates key elements of counselling and coaching into unique, highly effective packages of support.

She has also created Sunshine Barn, a beautiful sanctuary for her clients in rural Derbyshire, to optimise their experience and enable her to provide them with a truly holistic and creative service.

In this episode, Frances talks about:

• Her passion for developing online courses that parents and children can take together to support them in dealing with anxiety.
• Causes of anxiety in children and how they can pick up energies of people around them.
• The difference between feeling anxious and having an anxiety disorder.
• How various forms of anxiety can disrupt a child’s life, such as separation anxiety and phobia.
• How we, as parents, can unknowingly pass on phobias and anxiety to our children.
• EFT as a tool to help children recover from trauma.
• The importance of teaching children about the possible signs of anxiety disorders.
• How emotional anxiety or trauma can manifest on the physical body.
• How parents can help identify symptoms of a disorder and apply strategies and techniques to treat the anxiety.
• And so much more!

This week on the show, I have a single mum, Sarah Robb, sharing her story.

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

Sarah is a beautiful member of my Thrive Tribe community whom I’ve known for a number of years now.

In this episode, Sarah talks about:

• how she met her ex,
• how they quickly entered into a very serious relationship,
• the gaslighting she experienced from her ex,
• the other red flags that showed up in the relationship,
• how she handled the discovery of her husband’s infidelities and affair with another woman before and during their marriage,
• how she discovered that the other woman had a close relationship with her daughter and had known her since she had been born (without Sarah’s knowledge),
• becoming a single mum twice,
• the importance of taking care of yourself first, how she focused on self-development to have a thriving life as a single mum,
• her favourite things about being a single mum, and
• so much more!

Listen to her journey of healing, growing, and thriving.

Life was good when they had their first baby, but things quickly changed when she saw changes in her partner’s demeanour and when he began a strong friendship with a girl from his work. Until one day, she was blindsided by her partner’s sudden decision to leave her while she was just pregnant with their second baby.

In Part 1, my guest talked about:

• the challenges of becoming a first-time mum and the shifting in identity from doing what she wanted when she wanted and adjusting to motherhood,
• how she never felt fully supported by her partner when it came to caring for the baby,
• not addressing the unspoken expectations about the shared responsibilities of being a parent,
• the signs and changes in the behaviour of her partner when she found out he was texting another woman,
• her decision to move back to her parents to get the support she needed,
• juggling career and pregnancy while taking care of her first child,
• co-parenting with her ex, and
• moving into her own place and starting the next chapter.

In this episode, my guest shares Part 2 of her story. She talks about:

• the absolute grief and trauma she felt when her ex left her and the emotionally difficult pregnancy and birth she had,
• how she was in fight or flight mode the first months after separation,
• how she proactively sought help and put support in place around her during the early part of her pregnancy as she knew she was a candidate for PTSD,
• trauma recovery,
• intentionally seeking single mum friends who get it and understands her journey,
• how her visits to her psychologist triggered past trauma from her childhood which she never knew were there but
  how seeking therapy during these hard times helped release past and current trauma and helped process the rollercoaster of feelings one goes through in times of grief,
• her journey to self-discovery, and
• so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Episode 278 – Blindsided by my partner (Part 1) HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

She was studying for her Masters when they had an unplanned pregnancy, which caught her off guard as she was only a few weeks out from completing it and was about to pursue a new career.

Life was good when they had their first baby. They bought a house and had good times together exploring new places. But things quickly changed when she saw changes in her partner’s demeanour and when he began a strong friendship with a girl from his work. Until one day, when she got completely blindsided and was told by him that he wanted to separate.

In this episode, my guest talks about:

• trusting the process when you have an unexpected pregnancy, as it has a habit of working things out in the end,
• the challenges of becoming a first-time mum,
• the challenges of shifting identity from doing what she wanted when she wanted and adjusting to motherhood,
• how she didn’t feel fully supported by her partner when it came to caring for the baby,
• not addressing the unspoken expectations about the shared responsibilities of being a parent,
• the signs and changes in the behaviour of her partner when she found out he was texting another woman,
• how she was eventually blindsided by her partner’s sudden decision to leave her while she was just pregnant with their second baby,
• her decision to move back to her parents to get the support she needed,
• juggling career and pregnancy while taking care of her first child,
• co-parenting with her ex,
• moving into her own place and starting the next chapter,
• and so much more!

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest. 

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest. 

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

In part 1 of this series, Jenny shares her life from her childhood and the sexual abuse she received from her father which started when she was nine years old.

She talks about:

• what life was like growing up with an alcoholic father and the sexual abuse she got from her father,
• the pain she had to overcome when she exposed her father, and the shame that came with it,
• the discovery that her father was also doing the same thing to her sisters,
• the court case and how she was let down by the people who should have protected her,
• how her father continued abusing her throughout it,
• how she was betrayed by her own mother to protect her father,
• how her own children coped with the truth about their mother’s abuse,
• the power of forgiveness, and
• overcoming and thriving after sexual abuse.

This is not just a story about surviving abuse, but about the bravery and strength that one little girl had, and how she got through it, and ultimately thrived in life.

It is Jenny’s hope to provide encouragement to women to believe that peace, happiness, and self-love are possible, even after the most horrific of traumas.

Stay tuned for Part 2 that drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest. 

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest. 

Find out more about Leslie here.

Download Leslie’s free guide on The 6 Steps to Bladder Control here.

Jump on the waitlist for her new community membership for women here. 

Click HERE to check out her book on Amazon.  

Connect with Leslie on Facebook, or Instagram.

Leslie’s email: leslie@innerbalancept.com 

You can also listen to Leslie’s podcast with her son here.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.