How To Introduce Your Child To Your New Partner
As a single parent, it’s always difficult to know when is appropriate to introduce your new significant other to your children. It can be extremely stressful, as you will be anxious for them to be well received, and for all parties to get along amicably. After all, this is someone that you see being in your life going forward, of course it’s only natural that you want your family to be accepting of them. There are a few things you can do to ease the transitional period as you introduce your new partner to your precious little ones.
Talk To Both Parties Extensively First
Communication is highly underrated in so many scenarios, but it really is the key to better relationships and avoiding feelings being hurt. Once you start getting serious with someone, you might want to start name-dropping a little bit so that you don’t introduce your kids to someone that is completely unfamiliar to them. Beginning to mention their name into conversations will get your kids used to the idea of a new person being in the picture, without overwhelming them.
Likewise, talk to your new partner about your children. Describe their likes, and interests as well as emphasising how important they are to you. This will make sure they are fully aware of how big a part in your life your children play. If your partner does not have any children, it may take them a while to get used to this idea. However, ultimately, if they are the right person for you they will make the new relationship work, no matter the challenges!
Make Their First Meeting Heaps Of Fun
If you associate hanging out with your new partner with heaps of fun, your kids will love them right from the start! It doesn’t have to be anything too extravagant, and in fact simple activities are probably the best when it comes to the first meeting. You don’t want your little one to have too much to process all at once. Get everyone in the backyard for some fun time in the outdoors together – fresh air always eases tension. For example, you could purchase a jumping castle and set it up out the back. That way your kids will be giggling and jumping around in excitement, and will for sure remember their first meeting with your partner as a great one.
A Gift Isn’t A Bad Idea
If your partner is nervous about meeting your kids, give them a break! This is a really big step in the relationship, and you should only take it when you are definitely ready. Bringing a gift may not be a bad idea, especially if your kids are fairly young, as it will help them warm to the presence of this new figure in their lives. It also helps to establish them as a friendly face!
It would be great to buy a game, or activity that you can all get out and play together to avoid awkwardness. For example, a new doll makes a great gift! Then you have a brand new family-friendly activity for the afternoon and beyond.
Wait Until Everyone Is Absolutely Ready
This is probably the most important rule when it comes to introducing your kids to someone special, as it is a huge step and should not be taken lightly. If you are introducing your child to new boyfriends/girlfriends on a regular basis, this probably means you are jumping the gun and rushing into things. If your children react negatively when you first tell them about said significant other, then wait a good while before bringing it up again and change your approach. Wait until they are comfortable and relatively positive about the prospect of meeting this new addition to the family before doing so.
With regard to your partner, make sure they are willing and completely okay with the idea as well. Bring up the fact that you have children early, as with some people this will simply be a deal breaker, which you have to come to terms with. The last thing you want to do is introduce someone who suddenly decides this is all too much and pulls out last minute – this will not be good emotionally for you or your children.
Hopefully these tips and ideas help you when it comes to the big moment. Congratulations on taking the big step and good luck with this scary but exciting transitional period!
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