Author: Julia Hasche

To the New Single Mum – You Will Be Ok

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If you’ve just found yourself stepping into single motherhood, wondering Will I be okay as a single mum?, first let me say this: I see you. I know the swirl of emotions you might be feeling right now – fear, overwhelm, maybe even a little bit of relief mixed with guilt for feeling it.

I remember those early days myself. The nights that felt too quiet. The mornings that felt impossibly heavy. Wondering how on earth I was going to do this alone. The shame I felt about my situation. But here’s the truth I wish someone had whispered to me back then: not only will you survive, but in time, you will thrive. Whatever you’re carrying, know this: you are not alone, and you will be ok. Here’s why.

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The mental load of the single mum

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When people think about what single mums do, they picture the obvious: the school drop-offs, the packed lunches, the laundry, the cooking, the bedtime stories. And yes, those things are real (and exhausting enough on their own).

But here’s the truth… what really wears you down isn’t always the visible stuff. It’s the invisible load. The mental load. The hundreds of tiny, silent jobs that nobody sees, nobody thanks you for, but that keep your kids’ world spinning.

If you’ve ever collapsed into bed at night wondering, “Why am I so tired when I haven’t even done much today?”– this is why.

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Ten ways to stay organised as a single mother

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Let’s be honest, single mum life can feel like you’re juggling balls while riding a unicycle. Between school runs, work deadlines, bills, childcare arrangements, figuring out who has the kids when, and making sure everyone has clean socks, it’s no wonder organisation can feel impossible.

But here’s the good news: you don’t need to be a colour-coded Pinterest queen to stay on top of things. A few simple systems can save your sanity and help life flow more smoothly (even when things get messy). Throughout my eight years of single parenting, I quickly learned ways to save time and energy, and organisation was key to avoid overwhelm, burnout, and breakdowns.

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Six Ways to Beat Valentine’s Day Single Mum Loneliness

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Valentine’s Day is “supposed” to be about love, connection, and romantic gestures. But if you’re a single mum navigating life after separation or divorce, it can feel like a cruel reminder of what’s missing. Suddenly, the shops are full of roses, chocolates, and couples holding hands, and instead of feeling celebrated, it might be a reminder of what’s been lost. You might feel invisible, forgotten, or painfully alone.

First of all, let me say this: you are not alone in feeling this way. So many women quietly dread this day, even if they put on a brave face. And while it’s natural to feel sadness or longing, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be something you simply “get through.” You can approach it in a way that feels nurturing and even empowering. Here’s how:Continue Reading →

The three things a single mum should let go of to receive this one important thing

Being a single mum can feel like you’re juggling a hundred balls in the air while someone keeps sneaking in more when you’re not looking. You’re navigating parenting, finances, emotional ups and downs, and maybe even co-parenting with an ex who isn’t always easy to get along with.

It’s exhausting.

And while we’d all love to have everything neat, predictable, and under control, the truth is, there are some things you simply can’t control as a single mum. The good news? You don’t need to. Once you shift your energy to what you can influence, life feels a whole lot lighter.

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