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Stop Rushing! Why Being Single After Divorce Is the Growth You Need

A common question I hear is: “After being separated or divorced, do I need to get into a relationship?”

The short answer? Absolutely not! There’s no rulebook saying you must. This is your life, and there’s no reason to do something just because others expect it.

Often, family and friends push us to “move on” by finding someone new. They mean well, but there’s a dangerous misconception buried in this idea: that you can only be truly happy if you’re with someone.

Spoiler alert: That’s not true. You can be perfectly happy on your own.

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How Acceptance Can Set You Free

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As a single mum, maintaining a positive mindset is more important than ever. Life can feel overwhelming, and finding tools to navigate challenges with grace is essential. One of the most powerful tools for transforming your mindset is acceptance.

Acceptance is a game-changer. It can bring serenity, peace, and clarity to your emotions. It also gives you back control over your feelings, reminding you that while you can’t change the actions of others, you can shift your own thoughts and reactions.

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Why One Bad Day Can Overshadow a Dozen Good Ones – And How to Break the Cycle

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Have you ever noticed how one critical comment can overshadow a dozen compliments? Or how a tough day can linger in your mind, no matter how many good ones came before it? If so, you’re not alone. As humans, we’re wired to focus on the negative – it’s part of how our brains evolved to protect us.

For single mums navigating the challenges of life after separation or divorce, this negativity bias can feel especially heavy. Difficult experiences – an argument with your ex, a judgmental comment from a family member, or your own self-doubt – can weigh far more than the positives in your day.

But understanding why negative experiences hold so much power can help you regain control. By reframing your mindset and creating intentional strategies, you can start to tip the balance in your favour.Continue Reading →

Feeling Lonely or Just Alone? The Truth About Solitude After Divorce

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After a divorce or separation, it’s not uncommon to feel a profound sense of loneliness. The quiet moments that once felt comforting can suddenly feel heavy and unsettling. Yet, not all alone time is created equal. There’s a world of difference between loneliness and solitude, and learning to embrace the latter can be a transformative experience.

In this post, we’ll explore the key distinctions between loneliness and alone time and share strategies for turning solitude into a source of strength, healing, and empowerment. I hope to help you feel happy in solitude and to deal with that loneliness.Continue Reading →

Healing Starts With Your Words: The Hidden Magic of Affirmations

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Life after divorce can be overwhelming. Between juggling parenting responsibilities, rebuilding your finances, and healing emotionally, it’s easy to get caught in a loop of self-doubt and negativity. That’s where affirmations come in – a simple, yet powerful tool to shift your mindset and transform your inner dialogue.

Affirmations may seem like just words, but they’re much more than that. They’re a way to rewire your brain, strengthen your self-belief, and create the confidence you need to thrive. Let’s explore the power of affirmations, why they work, and how you can use them to reclaim your life.Continue Reading →