There’s a myth that healing after separation is linear.
It’s not.
Most women move through emotional stages that overlap, repeat, and sometimes collide. Knowing what these stages look like can be deeply reassuring because it helps you understand that nothing is “wrong” with you.Continue Reading →
The first 90 days after separation are not about thriving, being strong, or “having it together.” They are about stabilising.
If you feel shocked, numb, panicked, relieved, grief-stricken, or all of the above – that’s normal. This is a major life rupture. Your job right now isn’t to fix your future. It’s to get through today with as much care as possible.
Here’s how to think about the first 90 days.Continue Reading →
If you’ve just found yourself stepping into single motherhood, wondering Will I be okay as a single mum?, first let me say this: I see you. I know the swirl of emotions you might be feeling right now – fear, overwhelm, maybe even a little bit of relief mixed with guilt for feeling it.
I remember those early days myself. The nights that felt too quiet. The mornings that felt impossibly heavy. Wondering how on earth I was going to do this alone. The shame I felt about my situation. But here’s the truth I wish someone had whispered to me back then: not only will you survive, but in time, you will thrive. Whatever you’re carrying, know this: you are not alone, and you will be ok. Here’s why.
When people think about what single mums do, they picture the obvious: the school drop-offs, the packed lunches, the laundry, the cooking, the bedtime stories. And yes, those things are real (and exhausting enough on their own).
But here’s the truth… what really wears you down isn’t always the visible stuff. It’s the invisible load. The mental load. The hundreds of tiny, silent jobs that nobody sees, nobody thanks you for, but that keep your kids’ world spinning.
If you’ve ever collapsed into bed at night wondering, “Why am I so tired when I haven’t even done much today?”– this is why.
Here are 7 invisible jobs single mums do every single day:Continue Reading →
Let’s be honest, single mum life can feel like you’re juggling balls while riding a unicycle. Between school runs, work deadlines, bills, childcare arrangements, figuring out who has the kids when, and making sure everyone has clean socks, it’s no wonder organisation can feel impossible.
But here’s the good news: you don’t need to be a colour-coded Pinterest queen to stay on top of things. A few simple systems can save your sanity and help life flow more smoothly (even when things get messy). Throughout my eight years of single parenting, I quickly learned ways to save time and energy, and organisation was key to avoid overwhelm, burnout, and breakdowns.
Here are 10 ways to stay organised as a single mum:Continue Reading →